When I quit my job to spend my days raising my daughter, I knew what I was signing up for. SAHM life is the most frustrating, yet rewarding position I’ve ever held. There are days when I love every moment with my baby, and other when I seriously consider running away and abandoning my personal chaos.
It’s so hard, but so worth it.
Since my husband and I decided to list our home and move (most likely) back to our small hometown, I have felt an immense amount of stress. Staging my home, packing up a 9 month old for showings (which always happen to be at nap time), and obsessing over what the potential buyers are thinking, is only half the battle.
My husband has the blessing of working from home, which in turns means he can live practically anywhere (with high-speed internet, of course). Moving won’t make much of a difference in his life. Me, on the other hand… this decision impacts my entire future.
These days I find myself in a constant inner debate over what lies next for me. Major life decisions need to be addressed, and I’m feeling bombarded.
Will I ever go back to work?
If yes, when?
What career options are there for me in Crawfordsville?
Am I willing to commute again?
Will anyone hire me with this gap on my resume?
How many kids do we want to have?
When do we start trying again?
Will I be a SAHM to all of them?
The answer to all of the above? I don’t know.
And that kind of scares me.
In the process of contemplating my entire life plan, I’ve done a terrible job at maintaining my cool. I’m bitchy, tense and could have a panic attack at any moment. This mixes well with a sick baby who wakes up every three hours during the night because her poor sore throat (sarcasm). Remember that running away? That was my week.
But today, as I laid on a blanket in my backyard and basked in the sunshine with my little family, I decided to stop trying to map out my next 30 years. I decided to stop trying so hard to know every little detail of what’s coming up next. What happens is out of my control. As long as my husband and daughter are healthy and happy, everything will be just fine.
Plus, my blood pressure can’t handle much more of this.
The future is exciting. All I have to do is embrace it.
Ahhhh I totally get like 90% of what you are talking about. Showings are ALWAYS at nap timeβ¦.and choosing the “right” place to live is near impossible. I LOOOOOVE being a SAHM mom but I also find myself obsessing over “would I go back some day” and “what in the world would I do”β¦..I also have to remind myself to just worry about today and this season of life. Easier said then done. But no worries things will work themselves out. They always do. Have a glass of wine and relax mama!!
Great post! I am the same way. The future kind of scares me because I want to know it all. But I’m learning to back off… slowly but surely. I need to just embrace it as well. This post was a good reminder.